Blogging Basics – Am I A Writer?
Lately, I have spent a lot of energy explaining or defining whom I am. Since I am a dad blogger, I know this is a “somewhat” normal part of life and writing. A blogger should expect a large amount of their time being placed in self-promotion or vanity. Blogging in and of itself has to have some vanity involved. I think anyone that says “self-ego” does not factor into our writing is lying.
A writer needs to take notes all the time!
Being that I can define myself as a dad blogger does that make me a writer?
It is not a typical question I would ask myself, but I think the issue has merit. I think it is something that every blogger needs to consider. The question leads me to so many other questions.
Can I make the cut?
Do I write for personal reasons?
Do I love it?
Can I accept defeat?
Will I keep trying?
What is a writer?
The list of questions is nowhere near finished. Every blogger could make a list to ask themselves or others about writing. In fact, there is no such thing as a “right question” to ask about being a writer. I think it is when we stop asking questions that we begin to doubt ourselves and our writing abilities.
1. Can I make the cut?
Writing to me is a personal experience. I have kept journals since I was 15 year-old. I did not grow up with the intent of being a writer. I grew up with the intent of recording my life. I want to have a record for others and myself to remember. In my mind I have already made the cut, I am alive. When I start to place all of my energy and concerns into winning, I forget about life’s journey and lose sight on things I want to write about. (e.g. Can Fatherhood Begin With Pregnancy?)
2. Do I write for personal reasons?
As we get older and maturity begins to settle, we learn that everything we do is for personal reasons. The moment we begin to think that writing it is not for personal reasons is the moment we begin to fail. Writing is about being heard. It is about sharing ideas, our lives and our wisdom. It does not matter if I am writing a product review, parenting instructional or a humorous piece, everything I write is personal. The things I write will have my name attached to them and I happen to value my name, and how I present myself to the world.
3. Do I love it?
It is extremely easy to use the word “love” but when a person says the word “love” do they actually mean they “like” something. The opposite of love is hate. I do not like the word hate. Once we hate something we can never take it back. It is better we say that we dislike something over using the word hate. I feel that the word dislike is a happy middle, and it gives a person room for improvement and to grow. I think it is okay to say you “like” writing, but if your heart is in it, you will find a love for writing. In life there are a few things we need to love with all our heart, or we will never find happiness. The work we do daily is one of them and loving it is the key to being successful.
4. Can I accept defeat?
Everyone wants to feel like a winner. Truthfully, winning only feels good when we have learned to accept defeat. If all we were ever to do in life were win, the idea of winning would become mundane. Today, many schools give out trophies to every child at a school event. I think that it is an injustice to our children in learning how to deal with failure. I think the true mark of a winner is what they do after a defeat. As a writer, it’s about writing a blog post that no one reads but you think was one of your best pieces. It’s about turning a story into a magazine and never hearing back. (What do you do with those moments?)
5. Will I Keep Trying?
The old saying goes, “try, try, try again” (my granny always added “and if that was not enough keep trying“). When we have learned to accept defeat, we can not give up. We keep trying. We dust ourselves off and go back to writing. As a writer, we need to accept the fact not everyone is going to agree with everything we write. Human nature will not allow for us to agree with everything that someone believes. Just because something we wrote has provided controversy, no controversy or indifference should not matter. The key is to believe in yourself and keep writing.
6. What is a writer?
I am not sure I can define what a writer is. However, I can tell you what prompted me to write this post. The Jack B published a post this week, “What Happens When You Stop Blogging?” that I made a comment on. The author, Jack is a terrific dad blogger, and I looked forward to his response to my comment.
Last night, I was tired and fell asleep early on the couch. I awoke at about 1 am and was going to “move” to bed. I thought I would check my email first and I noticed he had responded to my comment. The first four words of his response are “I am a writer….” (I know he is a damn good writer). The word’s, “I am a writer” struck me hard. How does a person know when they become a writer? I may not have that answer, but I do know that I stayed up all night to write this post. I am beginning to think my dedication for writing over sleeping might mean I am becoming a writer.
How do you define a writer? Do you think there is a good “standard definition for what a writer is? or do you think it is more about loving what you do? Tell me more about writing and your experiences in the comments!!
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, personal experience
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, recording my life
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