Baby is a 3 letter word or is it?
Valentines means love!
February is the shortest month of the year with only 28 days (29 during a leap year). It is wintertime in the Northern Hemisphere and summertime in the Southern Hemisphere. It is the only month that might not have a full moon. According to many people, February is best known for St. Valentines, love and cupid.
As a husband, there are few holidays that are as imperative as Valentines, e.g., anniversary’s, birthdays and Christmas (not necessarily in that order)! Any partner knows that forgetting one of these very critical events will earn you sleeping rights to the couch and the likely hood that “sex” will not happen in the near future. Yes, on a parenting blog of all places I said the little three-letter word that makes a baby, “sex!”
Year of the Baby
According to the * New York Times the most popular day of the year in the United States for births is September 16th. As a father, I am not a math whiz, but I can count backwards nine months, and I know how many families were celebrating the new year! It makes me wonder if anyone is planning on telling their children there “might” have been alcohol involved??? (and no I do not drink).
I actually can understand that people want to celebrate around the holidays. It even makes sense to me that a baby is born 9 months after New Years. In fact, it makes as much sense to me that a baby is born nine months after Valentines Day. Right?
According to MyMonthlyCycles.com, a baby conceived on Valentine’s Day should have a due date of November 7th. November 7th is the 236th most popular day to have a child in the United States. In fact, there is not one day in the entire month of November that is in the top 100.
Making a baby can be fun!
If Valentine’s is the day of love I thought it would correlate to children being born 9 months later, but statistics proof differently(I still tend to believe that November should at least break into the top 100)!
The question remains what does it mean for all men or partners trying to decipher this “mystical” holiday
1. Commercialized - Valentines is no longer important. It has been overly commercialized and no one actually pays any attention to it.
2. Pregnancy - All women are already pregnant and sex is now taboo.
3. Gifts - Valentines is still important but only about the gifts and no one is having that three little letter word!
I think statistics leave us with more questions than answers.
Are we too tired?
Do we not care?
Is it all about the gifts?
I do not have the answers, but I can tell you that I am planning on doing the right things this Valentines. I will continue to use the old “tried, but true” routines of flowers, candy or dinner and I will not sleep on the couch!
As a parent, we sometimes have to discuss things that are a little out of our comfort zone. I try to keep my site very family friendly, but I am not afraid to talk about tough issues or “taboo” subjects if there is relevance to them and I feel that love (or sex) is very relevant to fatherhood and family. If we never had that little three-letter word, we would never have anything to talk about.
How do you feel about Valentines? Do you feel it has become overly commercialized? Did the statistics on births surprise you as much as they did me? Tell me more in the comments!
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* Source : Amitabh Chandra, Harvard University
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