Birthdays Mean A Child Gets Older
A sleeping child is a peaceful child.
Bedtime is never easy for any child. They have determined that life is going on around them, and they do not want to miss out on things. A parent can tell a child, “go to bed” and a child will find a half-dozen excuses to extend bedtime.
“I have to go the bathroom!“
“I am not tired!“
Every parent looks forward to bedtime. A parent can get things done, unwind and relax when a child goes to bed. A parent puts a child in bed, tucks them in and kiss them goodnight, and shows little thought to what bedtime simply means. It is the time when children grow the most. It was not until the other night when I safely tucked my son into his bed that I realized what bedtime meant.
Xander was being a typical little boy and jumping around. I leaned down to kiss him goodnight, “Goodnight son. I love you.” Xander knew that his birthday was the next day, and he hid his face, “NO!! NO!! NO KISSES!! I OLDER NOW!!” I felt my heart sink a little,”Xan, you are not 4 years-old until tomorrow, and you will never be to old for my kisses.” Xan laughed and giggled, “No, I be 4 and I to old for kisses!“
It was the last time in his life that we both would say goodnight to each other, and he was a three-year-old. My little boy is growing up and before long he will not want me anymore. I knew that the next day he would become a 4 year-old little boy already thinking he was a 40 years-old man.
1. Independence – As an adult we “think” we are independent (it’s easy to forget that other’s control large parts of an adults life). We love to have autonomy and “try” to control destiny. My son is on his way to discovering his independence. Xan enjoying asking me to build with Lego blocks. The older he has become the less he needs me to help. Now Xan tells me where to place the blocks, “Dada, you doing it wrong! The block goes here not there!“
2. Language - It can hurt when a person cuts their hand. Xander is compassionate when someone else hurts. He will listen first and speak second. He will give hugs and kisses when someone else needs one and sometimes he will use a four letter word. I cut myself working on a project and loudly said, “SH@@!!” Xander was standing next to me, “SH@@ Dada, it will be okay! I go get you a band-aid!“
3. Humor – Comedic timing is something we learn as we get older (we know we are funny). Humor is fun, sarcastic and childish. My wife, Melissa was standing in front of the refrigerator when she bumped into Xander. Xander looked at her with a serious face and said, “Momma, move your big butt please!” Melissa was shocked and answered, “Excuse me, did you say I have a big butt? ” Xander smiled at his momma, “Momma you have a big butt! My butt is little!“
4. Career – Adults can show aptitude for things through a career. A career is one way that an adult discovers whom they are. Xander and his cousin, Olivia are both learning more about adult career opportunities through play. They both have become doctors, artist and zoo keepers (see a A Child’s Career Opportunity). They both show others they are ready to become adults and learn their identity.
5. Bravery – I think as we get older we learn to experience the world with new bravery. We begin to realize that we will fall and injure ourselves. We also know that the best way to show courage is by picking ourselves up and continuing on life’s journey. Xander has fallen down many times (see Men vs. Woman and Child Injuries). It was when he fell down and landed on his head that I knew he was growing up. He was brave as the blood spilled from his head and he showed no interest (I was much more concerned than he was).
Getting older is part of life.
Children will grow up (far to quickly). Any father that says they are not “sometimes” sentimental lies. They are lying to friends, family and worst of all themselves. There will come a time in every man’s life that they will look back and wonder where all the time went. As I watch my son grow I always remember that he is a gift to me and my wife. We do not own him. We do not control him (ultimately). The best thing I can do as a father is to love him, guide him and help him to become the 40 year-old man he already thinks he is.
Happy 4th Birthday Son -
I love you -
As a child we always wish we were older and as adult we can’t believe how quickly time passes. Did you wish you were older as a child? If you have children, do they “try” to act older than they are? Do you ever remind them that they do not want time to pass so quickly? Tell me in the comments!!
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