Reasons Men Don’t Give Birth
One of the wonders of pregnancy (besides the end game) is the ability to share it with others. Women and men take immense pride in telling other people that they are going to have a child. When celebrating the birth of a child men can pass out cigars and women can have baby showers.
When my wife was giving birth to our son, I was empathetic. I shared her pain through holding her hand. I could feel her fingers tighten around my hand during a contraction and loosen at the end of one. I would offer her ice chips and stroke her hair to help ease the pain. The best way to help during the labor was me just being there for my wife.
Two Dutch men, Dennis Storm and Valerio Zeno of the show “Guinea Pigs,” decided that they needed to “empathize with women and what they felt during labor (see. Men Suffer Pregnancy Pain in Labor Simulation). To stimulate labor, the two men had electrodes placed on their abdomens for two hours. As time passed, they simulated the contractions getting stronger and closer together.
After, I heard about these men “simulating” labor it made me wonder what the world would be like if men gave birth. I think we would see some radical changes (if not the end game) for the species.
1. Birth Control - Currently, society has limited birth control measures. There is a constant debate on the merits of using birth control. Sadly, I have a feeling if men were the ones to have children; birth control would become readily available and free (the only thing sad about this is how quickly it would change if roles were reversed….sigh).
2. New Laws - The laws would change quickly. It would become mandatory that a person would have a year off after having a baby without fear of losing their job (possibly more than a year)! The laws would also favor having the entire 9 months of the pregnancy as “paid time” off. It is not out of the realm of possibilities that we pass the “Don’t Touch Me” law.
3. Medical Advances - You would see medical research move towards shortening labor and trying to find ways to control the pain. It is possible that this medical research would take precedence over all other forms of research.
4. Population Control – Population control would become the standard. Having more than one child would be considered odd and out-of-place.
5. End Game - If men gave birth the future of our species could become endangered, I can only speak for myself, but I have no wish to give birth. I will admit; I am a wimp when it comes to long-lasting pain.
Helping a future mom to relax is important!
All men should strive towards being empathetic to any woman during pregnancy. I know the two Dutch men wanted to feel more sympathy, and I think if a man has ever watched a woman go through childbirth they see her plight. A man might not feel the pain of labor, but they can certainly appreciate the wonder and beauty of it.
It is not difficult for a man to become empathetic during their partners pregnancy. Just remember that she is carrying your baby for 9 months. The basic rule of thumb is when she says, “Jump” reply, “How high?” A man should not complain if their partner asks them to make a midnight run for ice cream, a back rub or sometimes have them yell for no clear reason (it is acceptable for her to say, “You did this to me!”)
Pregnancy is hard on women. They have the job of carrying life for 9 months. If any man wants to feel empathy they should begin by just saying, “I love you.“
It is hard to fathom any man going through a pregnancy. What do you think of the two Dutch men trying to simulate the birth experience? Do you think they actually felt anything close to a real labor and delivery? Tell me more in the comments!!
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