Should Children Believe In Santa?
Santa Knows What You Want For Christmas!
The innocence of youth is a beautiful thing. Children are able to keep things simple and can compartmentalize life into simple ideas and beliefs. It is relatively easy for them to believe in magic, elves and Santa Claus. It is only as we get older that we lose the ability to simplify life so easily which makes being a child during the holidays so much fun.
It doesn’t matter where a child lives because there are adults in the world who are willing to help children believe in Santa Claus.The world is full of the magic of Santa Claus, Father Christmas, Saint Nikolaus and Pere Noel. As parents, we want our children to grow up but not too fast. We help to convince our children that Santa is real. The belief of Santa can help children experience the holidays with excitement, wonder and merriment.
Adult Realities and Santa
I wish that all adults could remember the simple things that made us happy when we were children. The other day my wife took our little boy out to lunch. While she was sitting at the table with our son she could hear two older women talking about their grandchildren and the holidays. My wife only became concerned when the women started talking about Santa and our three-year-old son wanted to hear the conversation.
The conversation took a turn for the worst because the two women started to talk about how Santa wasn’t real and the holidays meant nothing to them. My wife started talking to our son loudly. Melissa thought she could “drown” out the women’s conversation about Christmas.
The two women continued to speak louder about how believing in Santa was irrational. Melissa knew she had to somehow stop their conversation before our son actually heard any of it. She pushed her full cup of tea off the table into the floor. The two older women stopped talking when the cup hit the floor and splashed liquid towards them. The pause in their conversation allowed my wife to quietly ask them to stop discussing Santa (considering they were both grandmothers you would think they knew better).
Children Grow Up
Sadly, every child will grow up and Santa will lose some of his luster. Somewhere between the ages of 5 and 8 most children discover the truth and life becomes a little less magical for them. Since, we are parents of only one child, I don’t look forward to the day that my son discovers the truth.
I recall when I was little and discovered that Santa really didn’t know if I was naughty or nice. I remember listening to the whispers of children talk about him while I was in first and second grade. Children would debate and sometimes argue whether or not Santa was fact or fiction. The discussions would always concern wanting to understand the truth.
I also can remember feeling sad about the loss of Santa Claus. It helped when my parents explained how Santa helped make the holidays more fun for children. They wanted me to understand that he represented an idea of giving and sharing with others. It was my responsibility to do the same during the holiday season and become more like Santa.
Excitement Means Christmas Morning!
It concerns me about my son’s perception on lying to him about Santa. I know that we have emphasized how important it is to tell the truth. As parents, we then do the opposite and lie about Santa being real. It helps me when I remember we are not doing any long-term damage to our son. I do think that by allowing him to believe in Santa we are teaching him about The Spirit of Christmas.
If I asked a variety of people what does The Spirit of Christmas mean to them I would receive a variety of answers. Everyone has their own idea of what the Spirit of Christmas means. One common answers is that it is a general feeling of goodwill and a giving spirit to others. I believe Santa Claus represents these positive qualities.
Overall, it doesn’t matter if a parent decides to encourage children to believe in Santa or not. I think if believing in Santa helps my son relate to having a giving spirit when it comes to others I will help him to believe for as long as possible.
The holidays are a magical time of the year. Do you think it is okay to lie to our children about Santa? If your child no longer believes in Santa how old were they when they stopped believing? How old were you when you discovered Santa wasn’t real? Tell me more in the comments!!
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