Life Fast Forward – Razingmayhem

What would it be like if you could write a letter to your child in the future? Have you ever considered what you would tell your child once they become a parent? Is there anything they should know about how much their life is going to change? There is no right or wrong answer. It’s all about being open and honest with them. Today, I have a beautiful letter from Monique of Razingmayhem.com (Razing Mayhem.) She was wonderful enough to want to examine life fast forward with her children.

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Dear Minions,

You’ve all surpassed the agreed upon minimum age of 82 and have become parents! Congratulations my loves, may you remember each amazing day that my grandchildren were born, as vividly as I remember your own birth days.

Everyone threw a bunch of advice my way when you were born; but no one could adequately describe the immense joy, crushing sadness, and paralyzing fear that comes with being a parent, and I doubt I can do it either. Parenting is truly a living nightmare, and yet your most incredible dream come true. Be awake for all of it. There is no better advice than that – be present. Time is cruel, it moves rapidly and you don’t want to miss a single defining moment.

I have loved being a mother. No matter how many times you drew on the walls, no matter how many times I repeated “STOP RUNNING IN THE HOUSE!“, no matter how many times I found you doing the exact opposite of what I asked you to, I still smiled when you interrupted me mid lecture to distract me with a hug {nice tactic, by the way}, I still kept a positive perspective. I hope you’ll love being a parent as I have, it is the biggest honor ever bestowed upon me. Be patient, and gentle, laugh as you pull Legos out of the soles of your feet despite asking them to clean those up hours ago, and hug them back. Don’t be ashamed to spoil your children with love, even when they least deserve it.

I’m not without my flaws, by now you own the journals I’ve kept for you since I was pregnant with each of you, you’ve read the stories of the times you may not remember, and you know me at my worst and at my best. You won’t be flawless either, you’ll be a wreck sometimes, you’ll feel defeated, your baby will fall off the bed, your toddler will eat what seems like an indigestible amount of toothpaste, these things will happen – but you will be made stronger and wiser by them, don’t beat yourself up. Spoil yourself with love too.

Love your partners, respect them, cherish them, listen to them, be there for them – especially now, having children brings monumental change, and it can be frightening and difficult to acclimate to. If Daddy had never listened to me, even in my most irrational moments, I’d probably still be rocking in a darkened corner. Be a good partner, be a good partner, please. I am the luckiest woman in the world because you are my children and Christian is my husband. Put yourself first every once in a while, don’t feel guilty about it, you deserve it.

Be kind to other parents and those to be, try not to be too horribly judgmental – because everyone faces a struggle of their own, stay off of Maury, and know that my thoughts and love are with you always.

I love you.
-Mom

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About the author:
Monique; feisty wife, serial baby maker, photographer and chaos connoisseur – authors the stunningly mediocre personal blog, Razing Mayhem. In her free time… Ha! Wait. She doesn’t know what free time is, forget it. You can also find her on Twitter and Facebook.

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Great letter Monique! Thank you for sharing your Life Fast Forward letter with everyone. Your children are very lucky to have you as a mom guiding them towards their futures! I personally don’t think you have to worry about them being on Maury!

For everyone else….If you have anything you would like to tell or ask Monique please do in the comments! As parent’s, we have to support each other and sometimes that means just letting each other know “your doing a good job!”

Is there anything in particular you would tell your children? Would you remind them to just enjoy the moments or not get mad when their children don’t listen? I am still looking for more parents that would like to guest blog and write a letter to their children.

Read my latest post here: Food Failures – Bad Dad and be sure to check out my homepage Dadblunders for more great posts on parenting!

 

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